I remember it was winter in England and I was catching a train back to the city where I lived. It was cold, I looked out, White snow was falling lightly from the gloomy sky. The train was moving fast, and as it moved I could see grounds in white all covered up by snow. ‘Covered up?’ the word rang in my head. Images of hijab and headscarf flashes on my mind.
For the two hours journey, I couldnt sleep even once. There was too much on my mind. I was born as a Muslim. And I didn‘t pray five times a day like everybody else. I hardly could read the Quran. People could say I was illiterate in a way. Because at times, it took me a long while to finish even a short verse from the Quran. It was in Arabic and I was never taught Arabic, that was my excuse of not reading. I thought as long as you have a good heart that‘s good enough. And if you don’t commit huge sins, you’ll be fine. But what she said, made my whole perspective looked, vain.
I was from London and on my way back home to the North West region. My heart wasn’t at ease. What she said had made me thinking, and I was thinking real hard. She was a nice girl. ‘Be a true Muslim, and not just a Muslim by name,’ she said politely with a smile, but the meaning was intense. She was merely quoting and was not saying it to me but my heart was touched. What kind of Muslim, had I been all these while? I don’t want to be a Muslim and only by name. It doesn’t sound good either. As the train moved, heading to North West where I lived, I let out few sighs.
Few months after later.. ‘Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim..,’ I read out loud before starting to read the Quran. My web-cam was on. That night We were in the middle of Quranic circle. It’s an activity that we do once a week. Through this circle, we read the Quran in turns. All were ladies. Sometimes we get to discussed about the meaning behind the Quran verses and some Hadith from Rasulullah. It was amazingly fun and I never thought I would actually had fun doing religious activity. I was very thankful to Siti and her older sister because now I can read the Quran much better. And since then, I keep on gradually changing, I realised. How I view life has changed too, a bit if not much.
At nights before I slept, I thought of going to a place. Somewhere faraway and seemed hard to reach but I knew its reachable. And if possible, I wanted to go there with someone that I loved. Of course that’s still remain as a wish and I hope it’ll come true one day. My life is never this calm! I now wear headscarf everywhere I go. It doesn’t feel right without it. Sometimes that leads to guilt, when people sees my hair. So I wear headscarf whenever I go out. My social activity especially when interacting with men has also changed. I used to be friendly and outgoing, even with the opposite gender. Now I feel sort of afraid. Sometimes I limit myself from being too ‘friendly’ with men. Sometimes, I think twice before I talked to them. Is it necessary or not to talk now? Because Women can be a fitnah to men, I don’t want to build up sins.
I used to look for a romantic boyfriend before. I searched high and low but funny that I never really had a boyfriend until now. I used to ask why? The question is why. Because I’m not unpretty. But now I understand the reason behind. Having a romantic relationship outside marriage can lead to something that breaks the law of Syariah. All praise to Allah, I’m glad I never had boyfriends before. I’m not worried if I don’t find a guy any sooner. I’m not looking for a relationship anymore. And definitely not looking for someone based on how romantic he is. I’m going with the flow, after all everything about humans has been written. I want to fix myself first.
I read somewhere about ‘Mencintai kerana Allah’ or ’Loving you because of God’. It was a nice Malay blog entry. I am aiming for that kind of love now. It sounds more pure than romantic love, to me.
‘What’s your dream guy like?’ a friend asked me one day while we ride on a taxi.
I didn’t replied him immediately though, ‘and have you found him?’ he added quickly.
‘Why do you want to know’ I politely asked with a smile.
‘Well, only asking,’ he replied calmly. Then there were silent. The road was wet due to the rain. It was soon before the taxi reached my home.
‘Was he like me?’ he then added. He was hinting something, I knew. I’ve been waiting for this moment all this year. And this could be a dream come true, but..
‘My dream guy is,’ I began ‘Someone who can guide me, you know, he leads and I follow,’ Then I paused.
‘I can be the guy,’ He said confidently.
There was silence again, a long one. The taxi finally reached my home. I said goodbyes to him and walked to my front door. I wave before the taxi accelerated again. He smiled to me even though I didn’t gave him the answer. He was a nice guy but he couldn‘t be the guy. Because…
I want to live with a guy who could guide me, so that I can get closer to My Creator. I want a man who can lead as an Imam, in every prayers that we’re gonna do together as married couple. A man who would tell Islamic history as a bed-time-stories to our children in the future. I want a man who’ll read the holly Quran to me, to cheer me every time I’m down. That is my dream guy and before I can meet him, I knew I need to fix myself first.
One beautiful spring afternoon, I was at a function. There were many Malays all gathered. That’s when I met him. He’s not just decent but he has the characteristic of my dream guy. Every time our eyes met accidentally during the event, he quickly moved away his stare. That convinced me, even more. I knew he’ll be a good amir, a leader of a family.
abah : ni goreng pisang ke keledek ni adek? haha..
saya : goreng pisang la abah…macam keledek ke???
abah : macam keledek jeh adek.
saya : alaaaaaa…(muka sedeh)
abah : (gelak)
saya : aah la cam keledek jeh..cam cekodok pun ade..hihik ape nih
syahirah..buat goreng pisang pun failed..haha
hehe..da macam cekodok da (macam cekodok keledek pun da tinggal separuh tau..hihi) sebenarnye tepung yang digunakan tu yang membuatkan my fry banana ni jadi cam gitu..(ececeh..salahkan tepung pulak..hehe) oamma cakap kalau nak fry banana jadi lagi sedap kena guna tepung adabi. tapi silap la..semalam guna tepung laen pulak..adehh.. haha..but it’s okey..luar jeh yang tak cantek and rupanya tak berape nak jadi..tapi rasenye sedap tau!!heeee ^^
“Life changes every minute of every day. You lose friends. You gain friends. You realize your friend wasn’t ever really your friend, and that person you used to hate can make a really good friend. You look for love. You find love. You lose love. You realize all long that you’ve been loved. You laugh. You cry. You laugh so hard that you cry. You do this, you do that. You really wish you hadn’t done that. You then learn from that and are glad that you did. You have your ups. You have your downs. You see good movies. You see bad movies. You wonder if your life is just one big movie. You look at others and wish you were them. You then realize who they are and are glad that you’re you. You love life. You hate life. In the end you just find yourself happy to be living life, no matter what’s thrown at you.”—
Feeling down in the dumps, depressed, having the blues: these are just some of the terms used to describe a feeling of hopelessness and despair that can hit even the most optimistic of us at some point in our lives. While clinical depression requires proper professional treatment, the occasional feeling of sadness due to factors ranging from economic difficulty to harassment and discrimination can be helped through some simple spiritual practices. Here are a couple that can help:
1. Look at those below you
The Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Whenever you see someone better than you in wealth, face or figure, you should look at someone who is inferior to you in these respects” (Bukhari, Muslim). If you are reading this article online, consider this: you are one of the lucky set of human beings on the planet who can afford a computer and internet connection or at least have access to one. The United Nations Development Program’s 2007 Human Development Report notes that there are still around 1 billion people living worldwide at the margins of survival on less than $1 a day, with 2.6 billion living on less than $2 a day. Also consider that in the Quran (14:7), God says that if you are thankful to Him for what you have, He blesses you with more.
2. Serve your fellow human beings
The best way to thank God is to serve humanity, especially those who have less than you. Serving others is uplifting and rewarding. It helps us gain a better perspective on life’s challenges, making us realize how very often, are problems seem so small compared to the awesome difficulties others face. That’s why when the Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, and the Muslims were a small, poor and persecuted community, they used to give to the poor even more. They understood that when you are generous when you have less, you achieve the perspective of a winner. You are focused on the bigger picture.
3. Read Surah Ad Duha
According to one report, after the Prophet had begun receiving revelation from God, at one point a long period of time passed with no such communication from Allah. As a result, the Makkans ridiculed the Prophet and he became severely depressed. That’s when this chapter was revealed (Quran 93: 1-11). The chapter is a beautiful reminder to us to see life in the greater scheme of things, to be grateful for what we have and to never give up striving for what is right. This chapter of the Quran can be considered a direct recipe from God for depression.
4. Turn to God in all situations
Remember that nothing can harm you without the consent of God. While you must take care of yourself, rely on God and know that He is always with you and only He can give you strength in difficult times. Also remember that He will help you can come out of a trying situation as a better person if you deal with it positively.
5. Remember God’s Names
God has many beautiful Names which describe His attributes and powers. These are reminders of His Love, Mercy, Forgiveness, Justice, Strength and much, more. Supplicating to God using these Names reminds us that God has these attributes more than any other being and that we can and must rely on Him during good and bad times.
6. Say ‘Hasbun Allahu wa Ni’ mal Wakeel‘;
This has been translated as “God suffices me and He is the best guardian.” It is an excellent way of reminding us that whatever worries we have or problems we face, God has the answer and cure to all of them and is the only One who can really do what is best for us.
7. Make sure when you leave home,
you read this Dua ‘In the name of Allah, I place my trust in Allah, and there is no might nor power except with Allah.’ Bismillahe tawakkaltu alAllahe la haula wa la quwwata illa biAllah.
8. Take your spiritual break from the world,
five times a day Taking a break away from school, work or other life activities to spend a few minutes to remember God helps you reconnect with the Creator of the Universe, fortify your soul and strengthen your resolve to live a better life that is in tune with your faith and principles.
9. End your day on a good note
Shakespeare once wrote a play entitled “All’s well that ends well.” That’s good advice for dealing with depression too. End a day that may have been riddled with challenges and frustrations by making Wudu before going to bed, thinking of God and the Prophet and counting every blessings you have
10. Stop Shaytan in his tracks
Shaytan is the source of many of our negative emotions. It’s his job to make us feel pessimistic and to despair of any good in life. When you feel these feelings coming on, stop him dead in his tracks: say Aoutho billahi minash Shaytan ir Rajeem (I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed satan).
“If somebody likes me, I want them to like the real me, not what they think I am. And I don’t want them to carry it around inside. I want them to show me, so I can feel it, too. I want them to be able to do whatever they want around me.”—
LAKSE?? ke LAKSA??? mana satu sebutan yang betul nih?
pelik ke kalau dengar orang sebut laksa sebagai ‘lakse’??? saya rase biase jeh. ape yang peliknye?? time sekolah dulu, ada lah si kawan nih bila saya sebut lakse jeh, mesti si kawan nih gelakkan saya. (suka hati saya lah nk sebut laksa ke l.a.k.s.e. salah ke??tak salah kannnn???) lepas tuh suka suki jeh ikut orang sebut lakse. dia sebut lakse tak pe pulak yehhh…adeh rase geram pun ade.eeeeee…rase cam nak cubit-cubit jeh die tuh!haha..tapi saya tak rase malu pun sebab memang saya dah biase sebut l.a.k.s.e. heeee..(sebut lakse pun nk dijadikan isu ke??hehe..sorry guys!)i know maybe some people..ade yang rase funny or weird bila dengar someone sebut macam tuh..but it’s normal okeyy!
sedikit informasi ^^
lakse-biasanya sebutan ini digunakan oleh orang pantai timur.
laksa-biasanya sebutan ini digunakan oleh orang bukan pantai timur. (am i right??hehe..sorry kalau salah)
disebabkan mak saya orang pahang (my kampung at jerantut, pahang) dan secara langsungnya saya pun adalah orang pahang, jadi saya sebut ‘LAKSE’!!!
kepada mereka yang terase pelik dengar saya sebut laksa sebagai ’lakse’, saya rasa sekarang korang dah tau kan kenapa dan mengapa. heeee… ^^
yeay! lepas ni tak ade lagi soalan-soalan yang sama ditanya sebab korang-korang semua dah faham 100% right??hihi…
10+1 REAL questions/statements about the hijab I have encountered the past month:-
1) You are too young!
So if I wear the hijab at 22 years old, I am considered ‘too young’ to understand what I am doing, but if I murder someone, I am considered ‘old enough’ to be trialed?
2) Now you cannot wear all the normal clothes people wear!
On the contrary, wearing the hijab has given me more freedom in the way I dress. For the past years in my life, I have always felt very subconcious to what I wear as I felt that people were judging me from it. Now, I feel like I don’t have to conform to society’s expectations of how I look, and I only have to please one - Allah - and that is much easier for me, Alhamdulillah.
3) Why would you want your freedom taken away from you?
I am wearing the hijab today out of my own free will… which contradicts that my freedom has been taken away from me :) At least, that’s my opinion.
In any case if that is out of point, I still am doing every single thing that I have been doing Alhamdulillah. It only stops me from doing bad things (bad, even by a normal person’s standard) and I think that kind of freedom being taken away is actually a good thing!
4) So you mean this is permanent? You cannot take it off forever and ever?
Yes, this is a command from Allah, and InsyaAllah, I hope I remain steadfast in wearing it till I die.
5) So how come XX has now taken it off?
With regards to XX, let me make a comparison - By right, a married man is supposed to stay loyal to his wife. But how many men stray today? It’s all about making our own choices and having to face the consequences, good or bad.
6) So did you have to do some ritual over the weekend before you wear this?
Oh yes! The rituals are the best. We had to run circles around a bonfire while reciting some prayers and then provide an offering of 10 chickens (halal of course) to God. Hehe… No, darling, no rituals. It was just a simple act of waking up one morning and deciding to be a better Muslim, for Allah, InsyaAllah.
7) Oh.. Erm did you just perform the Hajj? Are you getting married soon? Are you pregnant?
No, I have not performed the hajj. No, I am not getting married soon. And no, nauzubillah, I am not pregnant. But I do hope I will get to experience all three in the future, InsyaAllah :)
8) So if you’re not any of the above, why does your head have a wrapping?
First of all, I am not a lollipop that I have a ‘wrapping’ around my head. It is called a hijab, and I wear it as it is a command by Allah on all Muslim women once they have reached puberty.
9) But YY is older than you and she’s not wearing it?
Again, like I said, Allah has given us the option to make choices. Some people choose to wear, some don’t. Maybe she will wear it one day, InsyaAllah.
“Ya Allah cantikkanlah akhlak ku seperti mana cantiknya akhlak Rasulullah SAW, tenangkanlah hati ku bagai tenangnya air di tasik, dan serikanlah wajahku bagai bercahayanya bulan purnama di hari berserinya wajah orang-orang beriman….”—
“Hijab is the symbol of modesty. Wearing the scarf isn’t just for covering the hair. It’s a way of presenting yourself, a way of interacting with others in society — the type of clothing we wear, the way we act, and the way we speak to one another.”—I Believe In ..
Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasized for him to get married. They had seen so many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind. However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say “she’s not the one!” The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing. (This was hard to find). However one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was religious and practicing.
On that evening, the young man and girl were left to talk and ask each other question (as one would expect). The young man, being a gentleman that, he was allowed, young lady to ask first.
Young girl asked the young man so many questions. She asked about his life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his time pass, his experiences, his shoe size and his likes and dislikes. Basically everything! And the young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring and politely with a smile. Young girl took up nearly all of the time, over an hour and felt bad and asked the young man do you have any questions? Young man said, “Yes, I only have 3 questions… “
Young girl thought, wow, only 3 questions okay, go ahead and shoot.
Young man’s first question was: “Who do you love the most in the world, someone who’s love nothing would ever overcome?” She said: “This is an easy question! Answer to your question is my mother”.
Young man smiled and asked second question: “You said: that you read a lot of Qur’an, could you tell me which Surahs you know the meaning of?” Hearing this she went red and embarrassed and said: “I do not know the meaning of any yet, but I am hoping to learn soon Inshallah. I have just been a bit busy”.
The third question the young man asked was: “I have been approached for my hand in marriage, by girls that are lot more prettier than you, why should I marry you?” Hearing this, the young girl was outraged, she stormed off to her parents with fury and said: “I do not want to marry this man he is insulting my beauty and intelligence” .
And the young man and his parents were once again, left without an agreement of marriage. This time, the young man’s parents were really angry and said: “What did you do to anger that young girl, the family was so nice and pleasant, and they were religious like you wanted. What did you ask the girl? Tell us!”
Young man said: “Firstly I asked her, who do you love the most? She said, her mother”. The parents said: “So, what is wrong with that?”
Young man said, “No one, is Muslim, until he loves Allah (SWT) and His Messenger more than anyone else in the world. If a woman loves Allah (SWT) and Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAWW) more than anyone, she will love me and respect me and stay faithful to me, because of that love and fear for Allah (SWT). And we can share this love, because this love is greater than lust for beauty”.
Young man said: “Then I asked, you read a lot of Holy Qur’an, can you tell me the meaning of any Surah? And she said no, because I haven’t had time yet.
“She has lived 20 years on this earth and not found any time, to seek knowledge. Why would I marry a woman, who does not know her rights and responsibilities and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because the woman is the Madrasah (school) and the best of teachers. And a woman, who has no time for Allah (SWT), will not have time for her husband”.
“The third question I asked her was, that a lot of girls, prettier than her, had approached me for marriage, why should I choose her? That is why she stormed off, getting angry”.
Young man’s parents said: “That is a horrible thing to say. Why would you do such a thing; we are going back there to apologize”. Young man said: “I said this on purpose, to test whether she could control her anger. Holy Prophet Muhammad said “Do not get angry, do not get angry, do not get angry” repeatedly when asked how to become pious, because anger is from Satan”.
“If a woman cannot control her anger with a stranger she just met, do you think she will be able to control it with her husband?”
Moral of the Story: The moral of this story is, a marriage is based on: Knowledge not looks, Practice not preaching, Forgiveness not anger, Spiritual love not lust and compromise!
One should look for a person who has love for Allah (SWT) and his Messenger; has knowledge of the deen (religion), and can act upon it; and can control her anger; and the most important and crucial factor is that she be willing to compromise.
And it goes both ways, so women seeking a man, should look for the same things.
May Allah (SWT) make every marriage a success and let us create Love for Allah and his Messenger so that Allah (SWT) can bless us, and create love in our lives.
Prophet Muhammad (saww) said: “There is no better structure found in Islam other than marriage”.
‘I love you’ means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I do not expect perfection from you, just as you do not expect it from me. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you when you’re in a bad mood or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. ‘I love you’ means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return only that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, hoping that you feel the same way for me..
Why was Snow White given an apple with poison? To show that not all people are as kind as what they pretend to be. Why did Cinderella have to run away when the clock stroke midnight? To remind us that everything has limitations, even dreams. Why did Ariel decide to exchange her fins with feet? To show that anyone is willing to give up anything just to be happy.
I'm sorry, 'cause you get hurt because of me. Whenever I make a mistake, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller every time.
That's true, but I don't really mind. You see, I was made to do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though, one of these days, I know I'll be gone and you have to replace me with a new one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad :)